Ladies, let’s get one thing clear: sending a “good morning” text, holding the door open, or remembering your birthday isn’t romantic effort—it’s basic human decency. Yet somehow, we’ve been conditioned to throw a full-on parade for men who do the absolute least. Newsflash: the bare minimum is not love, it’s laziness.
🚩 Signs He’s Giving You the Bare Minimum
Dry texting only. If his “wyd” at 11 pm counts as communication, he’s not trying. Zero planning.
All your “dates” are last-minute hangouts at his place. He puts effort everywhere else but you. Gym? Friends? Work? He’s consistent. You? Not so much.
You do all the emotional labor. You’re his cheerleader, therapist, and secretary—while he coasts.
He uses comparison as a defense. “At least I’m not cheating.” Honey, the bar is literally underground.
✨ Why We Applaud the Bare Minimum
Because we’ve been told to lower our standards to get something instead of nothing. Society has gaslit women into thinking asking for effort makes us “needy.” But here’s the truth: you’re not asking for too much, you’re asking the wrong man.
đź‘‘ What Real Effort Looks Like
He plans actual dates in advance. He checks in because he wants to, not because you remind him. He listens, remembers, and shows up consistently. He gives without making you beg.
That’s not “extra.” That’s the baseline for someone who genuinely cares.
đź’Ś The Bottom Line
Stop confusing crumbs for a feast. Stop romanticizing laziness as effort. And most importantly, stop clapping for men who should’ve come correct from day one.
The bare minimum isn’t romance, sis—it’s the lowest bar possible. And you? You’re a high-value woman who deserves the whole damn cake, not leftover crumbs. 🍰✨
Glowminded 
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