Glowminded

Let’s be real—too many of us have been conditioned to clap like trained seals over the absolute bare minimum in relationships. He texted back? OMG, he must really care. He remembered your coffee order once? Future husband material. No. Just no.

Here’s the truth: bare minimum boys aren’t romantic, they’re lazy. And you, queen, deserve so much more than the crumbs they’re throwing your way.

🚩 What Exactly Is a Bare Minimum Boy?

A bare minimum boy is the guy who does the least amount of effort possible while convincing you he’s doing the most. He’ll call you “babe,” but never actually plan a date. He’ll send you a random “wyd” text at 11 pm, but disappear when you need real support.

In short: he’s emotionally unemployed, and you’re not hiring.

💔 Signs You’re Dealing With One

His texts = zero effort. If “wyd” and “come thru” are his love language, he’s not the one. He doesn’t plan dates. Hanging out = his couch, Netflix, and you bringing snacks. He’s hot and cold. One day he’s love bombing, the next he ghosts. He uses “at least” arguments. “At least I’m not cheating” → No, sir. The bar is on the floor. You’re always the one initiating. Calls, plans, affection—it’s all on you.

👑 Why You Deserve Way More

Sis, the bare minimum is not a love story. You deserve someone who texts you good morning without a reminder, who remembers the small details, who shows up consistently because they want to—not because you begged.

When you stop settling for crumbs, you make space for someone who’ll give you the whole cake (with sprinkles, candles, and champagne on top).

💌 The Glow-Up Mindset

Stop normalizing half-effort. Stop justifying his laziness. Start demanding more, and don’t apologize for it.

Because the truth is: you’re not asking for too much. You’re asking the wrong guy.